Proverb Gal is married. In fact, there are five verses in the passage that mention her hubby.
The first two verses that reference hubby are perched at the top of the list.
“The heart of her husband trusts in her,
And he will have no lack of gain.
She does him good and not evil
All the days of her life.” Proverbs 31: 11-12
How does Proverb Gal do marriage?
Right at the top of her to do list is to cultivate a foundation trust between her and her man.
“The heart of her husband trusts in her,….”
Her man trusts his woman.
trust (verb): confidence in another, dependent on another, faith in someone
The very heart of her man says, “She’s got this! My lady is a can-do woman.”
Trust is built over time….a long time, and it’s built through one action at a time.
Selah Moment: What am I doing to earn and keep my man’s trust?
“And he will have no lack of gain…..”
I bet she could say the same about him. He is known in the gates (verse 23). In Biblical times that meant he was a part of solving legal matters and its where the guys solved community problems together. Proverb Gal’s hubby was rubbing elbows with the elders of the land. Proverb Gal respected him and he respected Proverb Gal.This dynamic duo did life as a team. She multiplied her talents and it translated into a positive gain in her marriage.
Selah Moment: How can I be a better team player in my marriage?
“She does him good and not evil…”
Hubby believes in Proverb Gal because he knows Proverb Gal has his back. No sleeping with one eye open for him. No eye rolls or exchanging down and dirty digs with the other ladies about hubby at the local watering hole. Good is coming his way!
Selah Moment: One of the fruits of the Spirit is goodness. Growing in Christ results in goodness. And the first human that should be reaping that benefit is your man.
“All the days of her life.”
The word “all” in Hebrew means “all”. I marvel at her consistency. I like to think I could say, “Most of the days of my life” but it’s probably more like when she’s not stressed or pressed for time, or when it’s a full moon in fall after she served pot roast. I’m sure Proverb Gal had bad days. We all do. But her bad days were overlooked by her fam when they looked at her life as a whole.
Selah Moment: Gain or positive growth comes from the positive day-to- day choices I make and more importantly what I actually do and not just “intend to do”.
Sooooo….What did she do to bless her husband? Details, pleeeeeese, details! Give me action steps!
Selahing about my desperate cry, I realized, the details don’t matter. Because Proverb Gal was all about serving her man with all his individual preferences and style.
My man is not her man.
I’m usually the first to crack open the newest book on marriage. But over the years, I’ve learned that although they all offer valuable information, they lack specific info about my man. So I have learned to read the print and then ask my man about his heart and not rely on the book for info about him. That’s what date nights are for!
At the end of the passage, Proverb Gal’s hubby joins in the same tune as her children that we wives long to hear, “Many daughters have done nobly but you excel them all.”
Of course he donned his choir robe and he’s signing her praises! Why? Because she “gets” him and he knows she is staying until death do they part.
I have been a full time student of my man since the day we met. I’m constantly learning more about his heart and dreams. Stuff I’m not sharing with you because you have your own man. And it’s more important to go to the College of__________ (Fill in your man’s name). And learn all you can about him.
Print and spend sometime Selahing*, then plan and do!
(*Selah: Calmly pause, ponder, pray)
From Our Home to Yours,
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“Whatever you do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks through Him to God the Father.” Colossians 3:17
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